The Holy Trinity
Family Matters
1. The Importance of Both Parents in a Child’s Life 🌱
Never did I think I would bring my children up in a two-parent household. As someone raised by a single parent, I did not get the opportunity to experience what I thought every child was guaranteed in life: a mother and a father. While I love and respect both of my parents, I realize just how complex family matters can be. A child benefits immensely when both a mother and father are present—not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually. A mother nurtures, a father guides, and together they create a balance that supports growth, identity, and resilience. When both parents show up consistently, a child feels seen, valued, and safe, and this foundation fosters confidence and emotional intelligence.
2. How Family Dynamics Have Changed in 50 Years 🌍
Family structures today are nothing like they were half a century ago. Fifty years ago, the traditional “nuclear family” was far more common. Today, we see blended families, single-parent households, co-parenting arrangements, and families affected by systemic issues like homelessness and trafficking. These changes have a direct impact on the emotional and social development of children. I think about the world my kids are growing up in—the statistics are staggering, and the vulnerability of children today is real. It makes me pause and reflect on the household I am cultivating, the energy my partner and I contribute, and how crucial it is to provide a safe, positive environment. Raising children today requires intentionality, understanding, and often, a strong sense of community and faith to navigate challenges.
3. The Cons of a Two-Parent Household ⚖️
That said, two-parent households are not without their challenges. Miscommunication can fester when expectations and parenting philosophies don’t align. Financial complications are a real factor, especially when both partners bring different spending habits or financial stress into the home. Generational trauma can also present barriers—patterns learned from our own parents can unintentionally shape how we parent. I often find myself navigating these challenges while trying to maintain harmony for my children, reminding myself that imperfection does not mean failure. Co-existing with another adult in a high-stakes emotional space requires patience, negotiation, and the ability to forgive quickly.
4. The Pros of a Two-Parent Household 🌸
Despite the challenges, there is something undeniably powerful about a household with two active parents. It takes community and faith to raise a child. As I’ve reflected in my own experience, the father’s role is just as important as the mother’s; together, they create a holistic system of support. A mother does not exist to blindly follow a father’s reasoning—she nurtures the lessons being cultivated within the home. When both parents understand and honor their roles individually, yet work collectively, they water the seed they planted together. Children witness collaboration, respect, and mutual support—lessons that last far beyond childhood. There’s something sacred in this process: the seed of the man, nurtured by the mother, blooms into the child. And if tended correctly, that bloom has the potential to flourish in ways no one parent could achieve alone.
5. In Conclusion 🌹
We don’t get too often to peek into the perspectives of other family dynamics, because frankly it’s not anyone’s business. Yet, when understanding community and how family structures have drastically changed in the last 50 years, one should empathize with my position. Two-parent households are not for the weak. It takes grit, guts, and dedication to decide to co-exist with anybody.
As I mentioned in a previous post, The Art of Disappearing, isolation is a human instinct. Naturally, human beings need space—or at least should consider opportunities for solitude to create a checks-and-balances system for the nervous system. As a mother of two, I often find my nervous system out of whack, and the kids are a huge factor—but not the only factor—when cohabitating in any residential space. That is when I start to think of The Holy Trinity: the mother, the father, and the child.
There is something admirable about creating life and having the pillars of that process stick around for said life. Childbirth is one of the most tumultuous yet rewarding experiences. Now that I know and accept that I did not create my child alone, it’s fascinating to observe the father’s role in the household. A mother is not designed to submit, comply, and obey the father’s logic, but to nurture the lessons being addressed within the home. That’s what makes the trinity—not just holy, but holistic-natural.
The seed of a man plants an idea, and the woman nurtures and grows that seed into a physical manifestation represented as the child. Therefore, creating life is a working process with only a few parts. Like any flower, it should be watered and tended to, with the moon and sun helping its growth. Without those impactful entities, the plant could wither. The mother and father must know their importance separately—but together, they can help water the plant to its maximum potential.
Positive Affirmation: Together, we nurture, guide, and grow in love and faith.
Always remember: “When life gives you thorns, search for roses.”